The second effect of sharing our spirit during sex is re-creation. I'm not talking about recreational sex in the casual, superficial sense. I'm talking about sex in a re-creational sense, in the sense of sex as a form of play.
Sex as Play
Play is any activity that is pleasurable. Pleasurable activities restore and renew our spirits. They re-create us.
When sex is pleasurable, like other forms of play, it restores and renews our spirits. It re-creates that which makes us alive.
Two Basic Experiments
Try this: Set aside some private time for some sex play with yourself. Before you begin, focus your attention on the center of your chest. The area behind your breast bone and between your breasts. This area, often called your heart, is the home of your spirit. If it helps, place one or both over this area and breathe into and out of your heart. Become aware of how your spirit feels. How would you describe the feeling?
After you have a good sense of your spirit, play. Have sex-play with yourself. Pleasure yourself to orgasm.
Afterwards, give yourself plenty of time to soak in the pleasure, then focus on your heart again. Breathe into your heart and breathe out.
How do you feel now? Do you feel different than before you pleasured yourself? If so, how? What effect on your spirit, if any, did your sex-play have?
When you have the opportunity to share your spirit with another during pleasurable sex, reflect on the experience afterwards. How did you feel before, during, and afterwards? Did your feelings change? If so, how? What effect, if any, did the sex have on your spirit?
With these and other playful experiments, we each can discover for ourselves the connections between our spirit and sex.
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