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The Problem of Mindlessness of Our Own Spirit

For our body to develop and move, we must first be alive. For our mind to think and learn, we must first be alive. Before we can interact with others, we must first be alive. Our spirit is what makes us alive rather than not.

Our spirit is as natural as our backsides, brains, and best friends. It is this-worldly rather than other-worldly.

Our spirit precedes our physical, mental, and social activity. It is the agent of our life and the purpose of our life. It drives us to keep living and guides us toward fulfilling our purpose. It sustains us as we create the narrative of our life one action at a time. By our spirit we know when we are fulfilling our purpose, straying from it, how to return, and when we are back on track.

The father of Western medicine, Hippocrates, said, “The natural healing force within each one of us is the greatest force in getting well.” Our spirit is that natural healing force. It is the agent of our natural healing process that drives our recovery from injuries and illnesses.

One of our greatest problems as Westerners is our mindlessness of our spirit. We comply with other’s too readily. We rely on our minds too much. Our mindlessness of our spirit hinders our living healthy, purpose-fulfilling lives.

Be mindful of this: your own spirit. It is the agent of your life. It precedes your thoughts, actions, and interactions with others. Go with it. Act in harmony with your spirit. Discipline your mind to serve rather than constantly second guess your spirit. Interact with those who help rather than hinder you in fulfilling the purpose of your life.

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Sex, Religion, Politics: What My Elders Taught Me

The divisiveness among us in general, and this election cycle in particular, have inspired me to reconsider what my elders taught me: It's best to avoid three topics for polite and civil public conversations: sex, religion, and politics. I believe their wisdom was based on generations of actually experiencing the harm that such conversations, when had in public, can have on us and our relationships with each other. 

Public conversations on these topics rarely, if ever, change the behaviors, beliefs, or opinions of those who engage in them. If anything, they promote the hardening of positions and harming of relationships. They tend to dehumanize and divide rather than unite us.

I believe your opinions and beliefs concerning sex, religion, and politics are none of my business. Why would I care about them? If I did care, I would speak with you in private about them, not in a public setting. 

My opinions and beliefs concerning sex, religion, and politics are none of your business. Why would you care about them? If you do, speak with me in private about them.

Your opinions of my opinions and beliefs are also none of my business. Again, I do not care. Why should I? 

I do care about you and our relationship. I do care if you threaten or harm me or those I love and care about. Otherwise, I'm not here to live according to your expectations or hopes for me. Neither are you here to live according to mine. 

I also care very much about our freedom to live our lives, with no harm to others, as we so choose. And I care about our freedom to express our beliefs and opinions, whatever they are. Just don't expect me to give a damn about your expressed beliefs and opinions. I might or might not give a damn. 

When it comes to elections, I don't care about what you have to say about who you're for and against, unless I ask you in private. I care about what the politicians have to say to all of us. And I care about their record. 

You have no sway on how I vote, except when your public behavior and words tell me something about the kind of folks your candidate attracts. 

I wonder why candidates do not care more about what their own constituents say and do in public. 

So, I've decided to take to heart the wisdom of my elders. I'm going private with my opinions about sex, religion, and politics. From now on, I consider your opinions on these topics private too. They're none of my business. If you expose them, I'll pretend I didn't see them and move on...

Because I care more about you and our relationship than I do about your opinions and beliefs regarding sex, religion, and politics.